I have realized over time that after God, people are the most essential part of our lives. Surrounding yourself with great, amazing and inspiring people really matters.
I recall how people have influenced me positively and have produced a better version of me. One thing I remain grateful for is that, I was never and will never be an island of knowledge, I am and will forever be open to corrections, criticism and properly weigh my options.
I will be sharing the corrections from friends and how it has really moulded me and produced a better version of me, am sure you are really eager to know them, just chill .
There were quite a few somethings about me, that wasn't really cool; ranging from the way I walked to being a bit offensive in the way I talked and unto having a very serious facial expression (I would say my face was scared of smiling lol). Trust me it wasn’t really easy adjusting but I really had to.
“You will be the same person you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read”
~ Charlie “Tremendous” Jones ~
I remember a friend, who made serious jest of me based on the way I walked. OMG It wasn’t cool at all because I was practically angry but I really didn’t know how to vent my anger. You know that feeling when a friend is making jest of you but you really can’t do anything about it. I felt bad to be sincere but deep down within me I knew he was right and I needed to adjust. So I consciously walked on my steps. Today I have one of the most amazing walking steps you could think of. If you haven’t met me before you should book an appointment lol.
I remember another friend of mine, telling me how his friends wanted to get closer to me but my facial expression was not inviting at all, my face was scared of smiling I guess lol. So I decided to start smiling for no reason even when walking alone, it felt crazy but over time I got used to smiling a lot and I think I even smile too much now. When someone gets to say hi to me I reply with a big smile, this really worked for me. I noticed people started coming around me, I became so free and so inviting. This life is not a serious something! This was how God helped me through.
Also another friend of mine told me I could be a bit offensive sometimes when I talk. I was very defensive on this, but I later asked some friends about it and they confirmed it. I decided to make conscious effort to work on it, I weighed every word of mine before they left my mouth. I also had to work on using myself as a standard to judge others. Because I am a very simple person who takes nothing to heart doesn’t mean everyone will react the way I do, I understood everyone had their unique personality. This ideology helped me and it’s still helping me today.
I also recall, how a friend encouraged me to put up for a writing competition and also to become a freelance writer. I did as she said after much persuasion and yeeeehh! all glory to God, I won a cash Prize of 10k and also became a freelance writer to that save blog.
In essence, people matter in our lives and the kind of people we keep determines how far we go. Be kind, be respectful and nice to people. Treat people right, correct them in love and never look down on anyone. Those you correct in love will never forget you (I remember everyone who had corrected me in one way or the other). Accept corrections with an open mind, never get too defensive; it’s a blind folder (I was there so I can vividly say that). Those who love you are those who would correct you, even God says, "he corrects those he loves".
Has anyone ever played a major role in you taking a life changing decision? You could please share if you don't mind.
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Yes you so right but friends can either mold you or destroy you, so it's better to choose one's friend wisely.... My thoughts though
ReplyDeleteYou absolutely right, but great friends are treasures. Thanks for stopping by dear
DeleteUKAY! He is My friend when am doing right and my antagonist when am doing it wrong
ReplyDeleteThat's how a true friend should be. 👍 to UKAY. Thanks for your honest feedback and hope you stop by again
DeleteI remember then when my dad friend use to tell me I walk as if wind is controlling me. This was because I was use to bouncing when I walk and am also walk very fast. When ever he mentioned it I feel very very very very bad.
ReplyDeleteBut one day I decided to stop bouncing and try to put the back of my feet down when I walk. Over time my walking step have changed and he has stop call me that but I still need to work on walking too fast.
I can try to imagine how bad you must have felt about your dad's friend criticism but it was so great you adjusted. Thanks for sharing your experience, I really do appreciate
DeleteThis is a wonderful post Prisca! Keep up the great work. I've had lots of friends but the ones i really keep close are those who bring out the best in me. Just as Charlie "Tremendous" Jones said; your friends have a big role to play in your life. thus one has to choose wisely.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much, I am glad you liked this piece. Hope to see more of you and thanks for stopping by.
DeleteAwesome piece...The Bible says that in the multitude of counsel there is safety, and trust me this has been my story but one must be very careful also to have a mind of your own
ReplyDeleteThanks dear. You are right oh, one really needs a mind of her own in making any decision. Thanks for stopping by
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